Dating with kids

No matter if you’re married, have a partner or looking to date it’s hard to date with kids! That I’ve noticed anyway. But it is vital that you still date your partner. As moms we’re always busy with work, the kids, house work and more that going out on dates kind of falls through the cracks! Seems like the relationship just becomes part of the daily routine. Finding baby sitters, especially when you have more than one child is a task in itself that sometimes you just don’t want to take on.

But we forget that dating is important in relationships because it allows the two of you time together outside of the house, away from all the normal daily activities. It allows you to clear your minds of any issues and just enjoy each other’s company! This is the time for you two to gain new experiences you’ll never forget! The best part about it, you can get really fancy and then at the end of the night you don’t even have to clean up! (Unless you’re like me and still manage to straighten the table after dinner! Troy gets super annoyed by this lol)

My kids are always so busy with their sports, activities with school then mix in working and cooking plus housework it’s so much to keep up with that keeping my relationship happy and thriving sometimes fell short! Not because i don’t love Troy and not because it’s not important just because life happens! He works crazy hours and by time we have any open time we are both tired! Basically we had all the excuses in the world!

I started to notice our vibe was off, we weren’t communicating much and we were not intimate. Not just through sex but no hugging, hand holding  and even weren't kissing each! I wasn’t doing little romantic gestures any more and i could see the affect it was having!

But NO more excuses, we need that time together so we promised to get “US time” in at least once a week. It doesn’t have to be a big date but even just going to get ice cream or go sit at the juice bar and just talk, laugh, complain about work or whatever! We always have fun together laughing and being goofy so we have to keep that in our relationship always! So we don’t loose US #HisKrazy #HerKalm that’s us, we are each others balance. Everyday as humans we are changing and evolving so dating each other helps to stay in the “know” of each other. That way you never lose sight of who your partner is!

 
It’s so easy to lose the things that brought us together so it’s important to keep that spice going! I can admit i have fell off (face palm) i use to always do little random romantic things. One time i did a scavenger hunt each clue led to a item so by time he was done he found heels with a robe, strawberries with whipped cream and then a card! I cooked in the robe and heels and y’all can just imagine the rest lol! Another time i posted a bunch of sticky notes on the mirror and each one had reasons of why i loved him! Think he left them up for a week! I could tell he was surprised and it made feel amazing and appreciated!

Quick funny story: one night we decided to step out for drinks, we were hype the whole drive. I mean music blasting and outfits looking right. We get to the location and we could not find a parking spot. If you know Atlanta every place has valet and there are parking lots charging 20-40 to park.. NOT what we were on that night and we couldn’t find anything on the street. After driving in circles we looked at each other and said “Forget it” we just bust out laughing! Got us some fast food and took it home! Now even though we didn’t make it to our destination we still had a great time so it was well worth it.

Don’t ruin something that was once so magical, put as much focus into your relationship as you do your children.  Because remember one day those kids will be grown and out your house, you don’t want it to be too late trying to figure out who your partner is!!