Funny delivery stories

As you all know my kids are 8 years apart, it’s so crazy that I went into labor the EXACT same way! Maybe just a few hours time difference. But it was early morning for both, I’m sleep and get up to use the restroom lol do what I need to do. As I stand up after whipping out pours all this water! Both times in my head I said “Really I just used the bathroom how did I pee on myself”!! Remember I’m half sleep here, then it clicks in AHHHHH my water broke......

August 2004

My original due date was August 22, my cousin Mecaila and I were pregnant at the same time and we were due a few days apart! Man I can remember it like yesterday, I had a 1989 red 2 door Acura (the legend car (no pun intended lol) if you know me from high school up until I had Kimara I’m sure you have plenty stories about this car too) anyway the air went out halfway through my pregnancy and boy was it a hot summer! Mecaila went into labor Aug 20th think she was 2 days early so I derided I’d go visit her.... SIKE now I’m having contraction and it’s Aug 21 Ohh I was geeked! We had everything prepared bag was packed, car seat ready. As the contraction got closer we went to the Hospital. Remember it’s hot as hell and we are in my car with NO air, get to the hospital and false alarm... WOOOOO was LLuvi Johnson hot lmao yes because I have no air! Haha she said we not going back until the baby head is already coming out.... But fast forward to Aug 24 the real deal! My water breaks early that morning, when we get to the hospital they finally admit me! After a few hours my contractions were so close and I had a lot of pressure as if the baby’s head was coming! We tell the nurse how bad the pressure was and she had the nerve to tell me “yes a lot of first time mother think they have pressure when they don’t”,  maybe not in those exact words but something along those lines lol. She wouldn’t have me checked, mind you I did not get an epidural so I’m feeling everything. Also I think I know what pressure feels like ma’am, something is for sure to come out! A hour later when a different nurse came in we asked her to check and guess what, yup the babies head was right there. Come to find out the nurse who wouldn’t have me checked didn’t even have kids, ma’am so how do you know??? My mom and Momma Chelle (Kimaras gma) let that lady have it!!! Only 2 people were allowed in with me at a time so one is holding my leg and the other my hand. I look over at the door and in the window I see my Aine Kendra, cousin Kelly and Kara jumping up and down waving and smiling. I really couldn’t laugh but I wanted to soooo bad! They were able to watch because there were two doors to the room. So it’s like they were in their own little watching room lol!  I was like well damn might was well let them in! They stood there the entire time, and I’m pretty sure there are some pictures floating around (face palm)! When it was time to go home, we swaddled Kimara and then covered her with a blanket, the ride seemed so long from downtown KC all the way to Grandview, remember my air didn’t work. We get home and Kimara was dripping wet from sweating haha poor baby! To this day she hates to be hot!!!

June 2012

Now this pregnancy was a troublesome one lol, my previous pregnancy I was only 19 so it was a breeze! I was fat as ever, had surgery to remove a cyst the size of a grapefruit, was bleeding, on bed rest a time or two and he was so big he use to knock my hip out of place! Tasha and I spent a few nights in the hospital.. I won’t even lie a few of them we were just trying to see the sex of the baby cause he always had his legs closed at my visits smh sad I know oh well lol. One night we went to the ER I was super gassy ( well that was normal not just that night lol) and the gas just kept coming! Kaydens dad goes by Pooh right so I’m getting out the car and I fart Tasha says ughhh baby Poo-Ted (poot) Lmao man we laughed at this for days! We even put Poo-Ted on his Christmas stocking! The week I went into labor Tasha and I tried everything to get this baby out, many walks up hills, squats, bouncing on workout balls, and the last thing was serum!!! Woooo thank you Jesus it worked! After my bathroom incident I called Tasha and she rushed over! Kimara was home with me so we had to drag her out the bed to go with us! I had my sisters Tasha and Maria with me and any cousin Mecaila if you know any of these fools it was all jokes the ENTIRE time! The doctors kept telling us Kimara could not stay in the room BUT no one could come get her soooo guess who stayed! A nurse told us just to hide her behind the chair so that’s what we did! Right before they made me push to get my 9lb baby out they took a picture of all of us and I’m clearly in distress but all 3 of them smiling and having a grand ole time!! When it was time Kimara was hidden but of course she kept popping her head up and the poor baby was traumatized with everything going on! Poor little tink tink! Bet she don’t want kids any time soon!! PERFECT!!

Just wanted to add some smiles to everyone’s face during this bid we are doing being stuck in the house! Please comment below any funny or not so funny stories of your deliveries!!

Childhood to adulthood

I saw a post on Facebook the other day that asked “Do y’all believe that people’s childhoods affect their relationships with people?” I responded “ HELL YES”! Then it had me thinking about a blog I wrote back in January but have been hesitant to post, I was going to call it “Childhood Trauma”. I was also stuck on the title lol. But that post just allowed to to feel comfortable to talk about it now! I will just break it down to fit that one question!

Over the past 5 or 6 years I have came to terms with a lot of things I’ve went through as a child and I look at the relationships in my life and how it has a affected them both good and bad! Basically I have been doing self therapy! Knowing my issues has never been a problem, facing them head on and actually knowing where they stem from was!

For starters my mother, I never knew that I resented her growing up. Now as mother I totally understand BUT as her child I don’t know that I ever will. Up until the age of 8 or 9 She raised me as a Scott (My brothers family) that family never treated me as anything other than a Scott BUT I always felt as if I did not belong. My dad was a typical weekend dad and we had some good times. When we moved from Denver to Kansas City is when I met WillWill who became another father figure and to this day I think he may be the one I’m most close with, not only did he teach me life lessons but he made me feel safe and we really have a dad daughter bond. The kids under me didn’t really know that I wasn’t family (in both families) due to them growing up around me! The older ones yes, some claim(ed) me as family and some it was just never talked about. Which made me feel weird since it was not talked about. Almost as if I couldn’t tell one family about the other like it was a secret. I didn’t want who didn’t know to treat me different. If they knew of the other family there may be questions. (Hope that makes sense for you all) Later I found out that I was actually an Evans and that’s when my world turned upside down! I never met that dad until I was 15 (Well i did when i was 9 but had NO clue who he was and he sure didn’t make it know ) and it was on my behalf knowing that I had siblings. Our relationship has been rocky and the only time I ever felt close to him was actually about 2 weeks ago. Whenever I visit them and meet new family I ALWAYS hear “I didn’t even know you had an older daughter Mark”  as if I’m not standing right there.. Thanks! Sooo again I do not feel as if I belong or welcomed... Catching on to the pattern here? Now as I stated I understand wanting the best for our children so we want to do for them the best we can! But honestly I’m not sure if she thought this dad thing all the way through. The way this has affected me with my children and my relationship is at times I feel like I push their own family on them because I never want them to feel as if they are not wanted or don’t feel they fit in with their own. It also affected me having friendships with other girls because my childhood self always thinks if my mom could hold in that truth than why wouldn’t anyone else! So I do not trust easy. I have done a lot better with getting along and opening up to females but I’m not all the way there just yet!

As far as my dads situation affecting my relationships, whewww Chile ! I was use to men leaving me so I’m kind of became numb to it. My Scott dad stopped coming around when he found out I knew of my birth dad. A couple of years ago he opened up to me about it when I had a conversation about our relationship! He left with out even knowing if I even met my real dad, says he felt as if he wouldn’t have a say anymore. When he said that it was like I lost him all over again. To me it felt like BS and it was just his way out, I can’t help that I felt that way but it’s my truth! Will Will went to jail when I was 12 and he’s still there so there went the only man in my life that I felt was the most honest with me. Mark was hardly around as is so.. My relationships with men had me clinging tight to those that were close in fear of losing them even if they were not right for me! Or I didn’t even take the chance to get close in fear of them leaving me.

It’s hard at times because for me family is not always blood it’s based off loyalty and love! I never want my kids to experience the feelings I’ve had being around family who just doesn’t see it the same way as I do. Some of my family I don’t even care to have them around because I don’t want them in and out like they are with me!

With my kids I make sure that I’m very open and honest about all my dads, because trust me they ask questions ha! I’m going to cut it off here because I can go on for days about this. Just wanted to answer that FaceBook question!

Comment below your thoughts

Birds of a feather

Do you think the saying “Birds of a feather flock together” is true? I’m kind of on the fence with this one! I know from the outside looking in, in some eyes you are guilty by association. But from experience I know this is not always the case. Growing up I had friends that were into things that I was not, well maybe a little later in life. But none the less, their behavior was not a influence on me.

I think it all depends on the persons mind frame and where they are in life! Times are a lot different then when I was coming up, so many different influences and society to keep up with that it makes me worry about my kids! They are both at points in life where the people they hang around have a big impression on them.

Before Kimara started high school I had a talk with her and her close friends how different it was going to be from middle school. HighSchool is the belly of the beast, everyone will start feeling themselves and trying to fit in! Advised them that by the end of 9th grade some of them probably won’t even be friends, and yes everything I told them came true. I have noticed the different type of friends that Kimara has, she may alter a little bit about herself. May be just little things like words she uses, activities she want to do at school but I notice it. There have been a few friends I did not care for but I would never want to make her end a friend based off my “Mom vibes” ! Another reason why I try to be as open and honest with situations I’ve experienced, how I handled it and/or how I wished I would have handled it knowing what I know at my age. She comes to me with questions and that’s when I’ll give my opinion! But for the most part I try and allow her to make the right decision.

Since Kayden has changed schools this year I have noticed a change in his behavior as well! The school is not to my liking as far as the students there. I even asked his teacher her opinion on it after she stated that she wanted her daughter to go there! She agreed the academics were good BUT the students not so much! If you know my son you know he’s a sour patch kids so I know he’s not perfect and does what boys do buttttt this year (well the beginning of the year) he was out of control! What gets me is he knows what he was doing is wrong and always justified it by who else was doing it.... BIG SIDE EYE!!!

Maybe I do believe the saying because, even though I can not monitor who my kids hang with at school I sure can when they are outside of school! And I have been that mom to ask “Who’s going” oh she going NOPE you can’t go lol! One of Kimaras BFF’s mom and I are close and for a few years if one couldn’t go then the other couldn’t either! Only because we knew if anything happened they would be together and we know they won’t let the other do anything they are not supposed to!

I trust my kids, it’s just the other kids that scare me! Its sad to work so hard making sure your kids are well behaved and know right from wrong then have to worry about other kids who may not be getting that attention OR just have a I don’t care attitude!!

Comment below and let me know if you believe the saying “Birds of a feather flock together” and how you handle your children with their friends!

This 2 week sentence with the kids has really been teaching me patience! I am use to working at home which is usually my quiet time!! Whewww when I tell you i have not heard momma, mommy, mom soooo much, i can’t take it!

I have been working on not showing them that I’m irritated because it’s not their fault we have to be trapped in this house together, so I have just been trying to make the best of it! Every day we try and do a different fun activity! The other night we made yogurt popsicles and home made pizza! This was our second time making homemade pizza and the kids REALLY enjoy it! The popsicles were actually pretty good and healthy

Supplies:
Vanilla yogurt
Fresh fruit of choice
Blender/bullet
Popsicle maker

The schools are closed until further notice and i don’t really know if they will even go back to school this year! I wanted to try this the other day but didn’t get around to it! Think we will write a short story, I’ll start with the first sentence and then each kid will add too it! I’ll have them draw a picture for each page!

What interesting things have you all done since the kids are home? I need more ideas please share educational, or fun activities that we can do below!! Thanks in advance

A letter to moms....

Dear Mommies,


You are doing such an amazing job at parenting! Things are not always as easy as we’d like and usually never go our way. You are selfless and give your family all that you have! You keep smiling to mask the pain holding within, due to fear of letting those emotions out cause it may show a sign of weakness! I know you don’t want that burden placed on them.

The past may have shaped the way you are today with how you think and parent! You don’t want your child to miss what you missed out on or experience the pain you endured. Unknowingly you set unrealistic expectations causing you to apply unnecessary pressure on the kids which may cause future issue in them with us to blame.

All your hard work, long nights, weekends full of games and sacrifices will all pay off! Stop being so hard on yourself you do not deserve it! Any mistakes you make along the way are only lessons, not only for you but your children to remember when they become parents! And please believe they do not understand now but it will be appreciated once that thought comes across “ohhhh this is why my mom did/ said that”.

Live one day at a time making the next better than the last! Love past the misunderstandings and fill your children with compassion! Be proud of the stability within your family! And remember it will all be worth it in the end!

Signed,
A mother figuring it out

How soon is too soon?

For those of us who are no longer with our child’s father, how soon is too soon for them to meet the new partner?  I mean i don’t think there is really a right or wrong answer to this question! There may be a difference of opinion but hey that is usually with everything!

I feel like whenever a women (I could be wrong butttt) has an issue with their child being around another woman it’s usually because there are still feelings there! Or they are still messing around just no title and that is usually when things get messy! Because seriously if you do not have any open feelings for the dad why would you really care? You should be glad he was taken off your hands! I haven’t really seen too many situations where the dad didn’t want the child around a new man but I’m SURE they are out there! I just can’t speak from experience so i won’t touch on that!

However I do feel like each party should want to make sure their new partner will be around for a while take the time to get to know the person! Spend time with them Shawn it’s not your weekend/week with the children! We all know how to prioritize so that the times do not over lap.  I never had a issue with my daughters father having women around her BUT I did not and still to this day do not approve of the amount of women she has been around. When a child is young it’s not easy to  keep adjusting and adapting to new people especially if they are not the right influence for them! Think about it, if that relationships breaks up, think of the damage it will have on the child. Repeatedly putting the child through that will have a damaging affect on their relationships in the future!

Since I having a daughter I try and make sure whoever I bring into her life will be able to build her up and show her how a women is to be treated by the way he treats me! And for my son the man in his life needs to be someone who can show him how to be a man and also how he should treat a woman! I think parents should always keep this in mind when dating. Rather it be the woman or the mans view! So rushing should never be the option!

I’ve seen it where a parent won’t let the other parent see the kid due to them having a new partner! This goes back to still having feelings or it just plain being BITTER! I can’t even imagine to fix my mouth to say such a thing! In the end all it does is hurt the child! She hates when i call her this but Chantal (Kimaras Ex tep mom) has been in my child’s life since she was little and i never had an issue with it outside of the fact she never combed her hair lol! Her children are boys so i can totally understand her not knowing anything about girls. Yes her and i have discussed this soooo...Heck i still can’t do hair! But that’s neither here nor there, I genuinely know that she loves and cares about my daughter! From what I see and know I can trust her around her with no fear! To this day even though she’s not with my daughters father any more (Good for her! Praise the heavens lol he’s gone kill me) she  still stays in contact with us and we have a friendship! No we don’t talk daily but the fact she’s still around means and says a lot!! NO matter what the naysayers may say..

Ok back on track.. y’all know I get lost and go into something else but that last statement just prompted my next blog (babymommas lol coming soon)


I think a good rule of thumb may be discussing your new partner with your children that way it’s not sprung on them! It will give them a chance to open up and think about the situation before being thrown into meeting! ESPECIALLY when you have boys because they are super over protective! Troy and I dated for like 6 months before he met my daughter and then he met Kayden a little later! Kimara is older and can understand, where as Kayden he had never seen me with a man being that me and his father split (title wise) when i was pregnant!  He is very over protective and I just didn’t know how he would handle it! It took him quite a while to break and get use to the fact this man was going to be around!

I feel like as long as the person is treating the child right there should be no issues! What do you all think? Please comment below your thoughts or stories on this matter below!! Can’t wait to hear...

Coca Cola blahhh

You all know I have my mommy daughter, mommy son and my date nights but I have yet to tell you all about our family nights! Now all five of us are totally different yet similar. We are all goofy so when we get crazy, we get crazy but we all get in our moods where we just don’t want to be delt with! Which is normal, we just handle it differently lol. I’m usually the more neutral one, or id like to believe so (they may say different) but i think I’m just not as picky so I’m more easy going! Then on the other hand lordt (yes I spelled that correctly lol) they are sooo picky and each want it their way or it’s a issue! And normally at least one person has an issues with where we eat or go to have fun!!
 

It’s to a point where now I just say forget it one of y’all gone have to be mad and the next time it will be someone else. Realized I can’t ALWAYS try to please them all or else I start getting irritated lol. Buttttt the one thing I know we can all agree on is —-PEPSI, we can drink a bottle a day! It’s truly all of our addiction. However that did not stop us from visiting the Coca Cola museum. We were all actually excited to go there! That was until we got stuck in traffic on the way there and was legit in traffic for 2 HOURS. The gps would say we were 1 mile away but it was going to take 35 min to get there so we’d go another direction and end up with the same result.... Everyone was getting annoyed and hungry, we almost said forget it but we stuck it out and finally made it!! Come to find out there was a marathon downtown. If you’ve never been I really suggest going, the place is full of information and history and even though coke is not our first choice the different coke products from around the world were... well interesting to say the least!

I love seeing when we are all united and no one is angry or arguing it’s such a beautiful thing! I’m really glad we didn’t turn around because it really did turn out to be a amazing day. Ohh then came time to go eat, and of course everyone through out totally different ideas lol! We ended up at Golden Corral which is perfect for us because everyone can find something they like woohooo! You would not think this but they have greatttt steak!

How are you being affected

The world is in an up roar right now with this coronavirus! Store shelf’s are empty, schools are shut down and ANY BIG event you can think of are being canceled!

Last year we went to McDonalds All American All-Star game for high school!! The kids wait their whole high school career to play in this game and it is written all over their faces. This year they will not be able to experience that moment and i think it’s truly sad! I just pray they are able to reschedule and make this up to them!

Kimara (my daughter) was supposed to go take a placement test next week so she can prepare for her college courses this summer and now that has been canceled! All morning she has been ranting and raving about her school being closed and how is she supposed to meet with her guidance councilor by the due date! I tried to keep her calm and assure that due to the severity of the situation this will be an exception and due dates will be pushed back! Whew my baby was freaking out lol! I guess she’s excited about this dual enrollment! If i haven’t said it enough I’m so proud of her!

I’m so glad most people are taking the necessary precautions because as much as i don’t want to let this stop our life we are doing the same! I already work from home but my company is now sending everyone who’s still in office to work from home! (I never get the good perks lol) Seriously tho, the kids will also be home until the 31st. So we went and stocked the fridge, even though we went last week just wanted to have more than enough! I know they are going to work my nerves during this time because i am use to my quiet through out the day, it’s the time i get my sanity together! But i don’t want to show them that side while they are home so i will make sure on my lunch i do something fun with them. Whatever they want to do which more than likely will be tic tok sooo if you follow me on social media be sure to look out for the video. Haha! It’s not their fault they have to be stuck here with me, so i don’t want to cause any unnecessary tension in the house!

Some things we have done to take precaution:

1. Vitamin C pills DAILY to build our immune system
2. We carry hand sanitizer every where and after any contact we use it! The stores are on a shortage of it obviously soooo if you need to make it at home all you need is rubbing alcohol and aloe Vera (we use the plant, you can buy at grocery store in vegetable section)
3.Lysol your house, counters, door knobs, faucets every time coming back in from outside
4. This should be a given regardless but when you sneeze or cough do it in your arm or napkin and throw away! They say the virus lasts in the air up to 3 minutes
5. WASH WASH WASH WASH WASH your hands throughly
6. Try not to rub your eyes and nose
7. Avoid sick people (obviously)
8. Avoid shaking hands (I’ll take a simple head nod please and thank you)
9. Update all your emergency contact information
10. In your phone use I.C.E (in case of emergency) next to your emergency contact person in your phone (this is great for any purpose)
11. Talk to your kids about what is going on! Do not leave them in the dark and be very open and honest! If they don’t understand why we are taking caution then they may not follow what needs to be done

I can not even going to lie i am nervous for these 2 trips I have coming up! Next week we are supposed to go to Memphis for a family trip, have a few things planned like going to visit the hotel MLK was murdered, the zoo and so much more but I honestly don’t know if we are going! The good thing would be we’re close enough to drive so we didn’t purchase tickets! I may not even have a definite answer until the day before it’s time to leave! Then Mid April I’m going to Chicago and the airport is what scares me the most... That is IF they don’t ban flying by then, there is a story of a man who was just banned from an airline for not informing the airline he was recently tested for the virus and waiting on results. Just so happens he got them while on the flight , yeaaaaaa okay we are booboo the fool BUT i won’t address that here. I’m taking precaution BUT it’s fools like that, that scare me!!

If you are home from work and you kids are as well use this time to really bond and educate during this time! Most schools have sent homework but if not you can still find assignments for them! Just to keep their mind busy! Heck also spring clean what better time than now!! Clean them closets out and pass the unwanted down to someone who can benefit from it!

How are you and your family taking precaution and how is it affecting you all these next few weeks? Please share and comment below incase there are other steps i need to take!

Pot Pot

Now i know my kids are ages away from being potty trained, however i have some followers who are coming up on potty training or in the middle of it! I can remember back when my kids were training and i thought it was going to be a stressful time but thankfully it actually was not!!
I like to turn everything into a game when it comes to learning! Or especially a song, if you notice a lot of kids theses days will know every song before they know how to spell their name. Not my kids but I’ve seen it before (no judging it just fits with where I’m going). Anyway, if you find something catchy enough it will excite the kids enough to make them want to do whatever brings up the song. If you keep up with my blogs you know i taught Kayden how to spell his name in song form!! They actually have potty training songs via YouTube now!This one is cute, I’ve never actually used this video or any others but it may help you. Personally i think its more fun to make it up myself! Normally i used the song after they went as a celebratory. Kids love to be celebrated and of course they want to make their mommies happy so this excites them!

Truly can’t remember who suggested this but it worked for both Kayden and Kimara, even though EVERYONE kept saying boys were harder to train than girls LIES lol. Any-who i would place Cheerios or  fruit loops in their potty and the game was to make them float. With their urine of course, yea sounds crazy right but once they used it they got the song “You did it, you did it ohhh yay you did it” or whatever I’d come up with at the moment. I’m sure you’re thinking “I am not wasting my food or my money” but really think about it, once you have your baby trained you won’t be buying diapers.... BOOM then you will be saving !!! (Ching Ching Ching) Changed the way you’re thinking already huh!

With Kimara I even use to give her stickers whenever she would tell me she needed to go, this was a MAJOR reward because i did not have to make her use it but she actually knew when to tell me!!

I know things can’t always be fun and games so other major factors when potty training is to make sure babysitters and or daycare are on the same page as you! Being on different schedules every place really child goes may confuse them. Set a schedule of when drinks are to stop at night! That’s a major key to over night peeing, we tend to want to satisfy the child when they cry and give them juice or milk but NO stop doing that ASAP. Pick a time in the middle of the night that they usually wake up or have to use it, wake them up and take them to the bathroom, this will help them get use to the sensation feeling of when it’s time to go!

Another major thing that helped with Kayden, after giving him juice I’d wait 10-15 minutes and then sit him in the potty. Normally he would say he didn’t have to go BUT you know the saying “Momma knows best” and in this case i always did because he would go every time!!

Try using big kid panties/underwear especially while at home, if they get those wet the feeling is worse than a diaper and trust me they will not want to walk around wet with those on! Plus it will just help them feel like a big kid!!

I hope this helps out, if love to hear your potty training nightmares and success so just comment below and share!!!

Like Minded

We all know that mothering comes with ALOT.. Body changes, sleep patterns, laughs, cries, good times, bad times, stressful time and so much more. We get in a routine of being just a mom and we don’t really want to add on any other tasks right? Right, I’ve said this a time or two before but it’s true so i can’t say it enough!

A lot of times the support of your household may not be what you need due to them just simply not understanding certain things! Having a supportive circle of women/mothers around you to help you roll with all the punches motherhood gives you will keep you going! The understanding you all share will fully allow you to express what’s been going on in your mind!

There are lot of women around me who support me and also give it to me raw when it comes to advice! I don’t want anyone just telling me what i want to hear so it’s great to hear the honest truth! It’s those uncomfortable situations that help me grow and reflect.

It may be difficult to hear but as they saying goes “The truth hurts” but i love it.

If you go through my texts right now i have a few different group texts each one different in their own rights! All women from different back grounds, in different stages of motherhood, some married, some single but all supportive! In each group there are honest moments, tears laughter and many pictures but never any judgment! I know each of these ladies i can go to for different things and i hope they know the same from me as well..

As much as i would love to talk to Troy about certain things like the stress of spreading my time to all of them he just can not give me the direct answer or conversation i will get from these women lol so sometimes i don’t even bother. Even tho this is one thing i brought up on our date night yesterday! It’s simply because we have different rolls,, just like I’ll never know the struggles of a man so it’s ok!

During my younger days i use to always say “NO NEW FRIENDS” and boy was i wrong about that! Adding new women to your circle does not mean you have to get rid of the old ones. Also in some situations the new women you meet may be more supportive in ways the old ones could not! I feel like it’s good to have different mixtures, you just never know what can come from these friendships! The key to keeping and maintaining these relationships is fully understanding people are in different situations in life, and even though we may not all think the same  we can help out in situations that may be new to the other person.

Every other month a group of us try and get together for a ladies night! Each time there’s a different group, everyone tries to bring a new face to join and we really have a great time. It’s fun time away from home, kids and our men lol!! Usually filled with soooo many laughs. This last one we went to a Trap Boxing class, whew we sweated so bad but it was more fun then we expected.


The key is to be around strong women who inspire you to open up your way of thinking, show you  how to handle different situations and to share mothering tips because when your around bold strong women there will be no jealousy only praise and support because they want to see you win!!

2 Week Challenge

Summer is literally around the corner and i know none of us have kept that New Years Resolution that we make EVERY year!! - We are going to eat healthy or start going to the gym... blah blah blahhhhh. It’s like why are we even still telling ourselves that same lie, right?

We are always too busy for this or too busy for that to ever do anything. So my question to you (and myself) is IF we are always to busy for things what are we really doing lol. Read that again if you didn’t catch it!

Let’s stop making excuses and just DO IT ( No I’m not sponsored by Nike lol but wishful thinking). I want to challenge all of you moms to a #2WeekMomChallenge!
             No carbs or sugars 
            Bread
            pasta
            rice
            cookies
            candy
            soda
Only meat, baked NOT fried and green vegetables. If your families are anything like mine it’s hard to be on a diet because they like to snack daily! I am going to meal prep my food on Sunday and Wed that way i won’t have to make 2 meals a night!  Oh and you can not forget to drink plenty of water, i like to add lemons, cucumber and mint leaves. Sometimes all together but mostly apart. What helps me is using an empty milk carton and let it sit over night in the fridge. It’s cost effective but may take some time every night!! If you don’t have the time Smart Water has bottles of flavored water that is actually pretty good and taste just about the same as using lemons!!

Now, i know making it to the gym is not easy for a lot of us but these two weeks we will not let it affect us! So here are some things to try!

1. During the morning while your kids are getting ready for school do 3 sets of 20 crunches and 3 sets of 20 squats

2. If you have stairs try running up and down them for 5 mins (good to get your heart rate going), wake up 10 minutes earlier than normal if you have too

3. While sitting at your desk every hour do a different workout: squats, side crunch: sit straight up with arms down by your side and bend down one side at a time as if you’re going to touch the floor, possibly do jumping jacks

4. Watching tv or on the floor with the kids do 2 sets of 20 donkey kicks each leg

5.Do 3 sets of 15 wall push ups before getting dressed

This may not be equivalent to going to the gym but with your new diet it will help you get your body active and heart rate pumping! We are in this together so let’s be each other’s support system! I do not mind being anyone’s accountability partner! Feel free to comment, email or dm with questions, concerns or just to be your cheerleader!

Once we’ve hit 2 weeks i know we can keep going! Let’s take pics of before and after (for ourselves of course). And cheer each other on! Feel free to post pics and tag me @momohhmy during your process and #2WeekMomChallenge so we can keep up with each other..

COMMENT “In” below

T-I-M-E

Kids are so simple at times and all they really require to feel loved is a little T-I-M-E!! This helps them with positive self identity as they grow. Money is not required to spend time with your kids, of course you would make it based off your situation and schedule. Here are a few things i do to give my kids time


                 1. Ask them how their day was when they get home from school -this shows them I’m interested in what’s going on with them and even if I’m working I’m not too busy to show interest!
                  2. Engage in their activities and school work- read previous blog “All you care about is education” to see how I’m very active in their school work
                  3. Make time for their field trips and activities at school (not just ones that are mandatory for you)
                   4. Make and eat dinner together

It makes me so happy to know Kayden actually wants and likes when i attend his field trips! He won’t let me out of his site, well that’s normal on a regular day! This last field trip it really did something to me to see so little participation from parents. I know people have to work, however kids have a soft spot in my heart! One of Kaydens friends said multiple times “I wish my mom was here” so of course i kept him close with us the entire time!

We went to the Tellus Science Museum it was very educational and cool! I’m not sure who was more excited me or the kids!!

Now if you know me i LOVE food and have tried many many things such as goat, raccoon (yes you read that correctly), deer, rabbit etc but i would have never imagined trying what i did at this museum! Kayden you’re lucky i love you and adventurous!!

Please comment below some of the ways you give your kids time and also any adventurous things you’ve eaten!! Can’t wait to hear from you!!

Dating with kids

No matter if you’re married, have a partner or looking to date it’s hard to date with kids! That I’ve noticed anyway. But it is vital that you still date your partner. As moms we’re always busy with work, the kids, house work and more that going out on dates kind of falls through the cracks! Seems like the relationship just becomes part of the daily routine. Finding baby sitters, especially when you have more than one child is a task in itself that sometimes you just don’t want to take on.

But we forget that dating is important in relationships because it allows the two of you time together outside of the house, away from all the normal daily activities. It allows you to clear your minds of any issues and just enjoy each other’s company! This is the time for you two to gain new experiences you’ll never forget! The best part about it, you can get really fancy and then at the end of the night you don’t even have to clean up! (Unless you’re like me and still manage to straighten the table after dinner! Troy gets super annoyed by this lol)

My kids are always so busy with their sports, activities with school then mix in working and cooking plus housework it’s so much to keep up with that keeping my relationship happy and thriving sometimes fell short! Not because i don’t love Troy and not because it’s not important just because life happens! He works crazy hours and by time we have any open time we are both tired! Basically we had all the excuses in the world!

I started to notice our vibe was off, we weren’t communicating much and we were not intimate. Not just through sex but no hugging, hand holding  and even weren't kissing each! I wasn’t doing little romantic gestures any more and i could see the affect it was having!

But NO more excuses, we need that time together so we promised to get “US time” in at least once a week. It doesn’t have to be a big date but even just going to get ice cream or go sit at the juice bar and just talk, laugh, complain about work or whatever! We always have fun together laughing and being goofy so we have to keep that in our relationship always! So we don’t loose US #HisKrazy #HerKalm that’s us, we are each others balance. Everyday as humans we are changing and evolving so dating each other helps to stay in the “know” of each other. That way you never lose sight of who your partner is!

 
It’s so easy to lose the things that brought us together so it’s important to keep that spice going! I can admit i have fell off (face palm) i use to always do little random romantic things. One time i did a scavenger hunt each clue led to a item so by time he was done he found heels with a robe, strawberries with whipped cream and then a card! I cooked in the robe and heels and y’all can just imagine the rest lol! Another time i posted a bunch of sticky notes on the mirror and each one had reasons of why i loved him! Think he left them up for a week! I could tell he was surprised and it made feel amazing and appreciated!

Quick funny story: one night we decided to step out for drinks, we were hype the whole drive. I mean music blasting and outfits looking right. We get to the location and we could not find a parking spot. If you know Atlanta every place has valet and there are parking lots charging 20-40 to park.. NOT what we were on that night and we couldn’t find anything on the street. After driving in circles we looked at each other and said “Forget it” we just bust out laughing! Got us some fast food and took it home! Now even though we didn’t make it to our destination we still had a great time so it was well worth it.

Don’t ruin something that was once so magical, put as much focus into your relationship as you do your children.  Because remember one day those kids will be grown and out your house, you don’t want it to be too late trying to figure out who your partner is!!